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In which there are a lot of words about 2017

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The annual navel-gazing questionnaire is back! And it’s only taken me about four weeks to complete — that’s being a parent for you.

What did you do in 2017 that you’d never done before?

Well, the obvious one is have a baby, and everything associated with that. Just as this questionnaire was dominated by house renovation in 2014, expect this one to be pretty baby-heavy. Mini W came with lots of firsts, from hypnobirthing classes and keeping a child alive with just my boobs, to successfully working out how to strap a wriggly infant in a car seat and have a baby fall asleep in my arms.

Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Last year I said “I want to continue on the same path of appreciating everything I have, continuing to grow my freelance work and being the best wife, friend, daughter and sister I can be,.with the added addition of being the best parent I can be, and a bit less freelance work.”

The parenting thing is hard at times, particularly on a huge sleep deficit, and there’s always room for improvement, but Mini W is still alive and thriving so it’s going OK overall.

Freelancing continued to go well until my maternity leave started in May, and I did get better at saying no when my workload was busy.

This year, as I have for the last few, I’m taking a word to try and live by. For 2018 it’s ‘present’ — enjoying the here and now, not trying to jump too far ahead and not getting too distracted to appreciate the activity I’m actually doing.

Did anyone close to you give birth?

We had friends bring new babas into the world in January and February, and my German friend J sneaked her little boy in in 24th December. A couple of work friends had babies, which was lovely and gave me some other people to hang out with on mat leave. Lots more are coming this year too — I’m currently waiting to hear about my friend’s imminent arrival, plus two of my closest friends in Bristol are having spring babies this year to grow our gang, which is ace.

Did anyone close to you die?

Thankfully no. My mother in law had some bad news health wise in May but is doing better.

What countries did you visit?

A small year for travelling this year — just Italy in late September for a week. It featured gelato, pasta, bomboloni, sunshine and beautiful architecture and landscapes, and was very much appreciated.

What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017?

Sleep. Oh, glorious sleep, how I miss thee.

What dates from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

17th May, the day my son was born.

What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Keeping a small human alive with just my body. And managing to do it on levels of sleep that would be ranked as torture.

What was your biggest failure?

An inability to get my baby to nap in his cot. (I don’t actually see that as too much of a bad thing though as I enjoy snoozy on-lap naps!)

Did you suffer illness or injury?

Giving birth was a wonderful experience but I did have a few issues as a consequence that took a while to heal. I’ve also had a number of colds this winter but I think that’s inevitable when around small germy children.

What was the best thing you bought?

The services of my gardener friend to help keep on top of our (huge) garden when I couldn’t. An Ergo baby sling — guaranteed naps when baby is in it with two hands free to do stuff round the house or get around easily.

Whose behaviour merited celebration?

I was so touched by the reaction of friends and family to the arrival of Mini W. I know a truly awesome group of people on this earth. And as always, S contines to be my best friend, cheerleader and all round wonderful human. He is now a brilliant father, which I always knew he would be.

Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

As with last year, events on the national and global stage (Brexit, Trump administration, Syria, global warming and over consumption, the list goes on) depressed and appalled me. I do worry about the planet my son’s generation will inherit. But as Gandhi said, we need to be the change we want to see, so I will continue to engage and fight for the world I want.

Where did most of your money go?

It must be lunches, coffee and cake out! We were so lucky to be given or lent absolutely loads of baby stuff so our outlay there was surprisingly minimal.

What did you get really excited about?

Meeting my baby! Eating gelato in its birthplace of Florence. Seeing my garden take shape. My friend’s hen do and wedding.

What song will always remind you of 2017?

Barcelona by George Ezra. I used to play it to Mini W in utero as it has a good bass beat. And we got engaged in Barcelona so it’ll always be a special city.

Compared with this time last year, are you:

–happier or sadder?
Happier. I spent the first few months of 2017 stressing about Mini W’s potential medical issues. To have him here and well and healthy is so, so brilliant.

–thinner or fatter?

Thinner. Not only have I shed the 10kg of baby weight I put on, but breastfeeding and a motion-loving son means I’m an additional 7kg lighter. S bought me a lot of chocolate for Christmas!

–richer or poorer?

Poorer, and set to be more so as mat leave payments stop this month!

What do you wish you’d done more of?

Sleep!

What do you wish you’d done less of?

Not worrying about the baby’s health. But it was inevitable really. And then reading baby books and stressing about what I “should” be doing. I’ve stopped that now — my mantra is whatever gets you through.

How did you spend Christmas?

We had Mini W’s first Christmas at home with just us and the puss. Very relaxing.

Did you fall in love in 2017?

Yes, and a love I’ve never experienced before and fail to put into words. .

What was your favourite TV programme?

Ooh, we watched some good stuff this year. The Handmaid’s Tale was probably the best — although pretty harrowing with a newborn. We also loved Detectorists, and watched all three series over jusr a week or two. So gentle, and British, and sun dappled. Plus a cracking theme tune. We watched both series of Top of the Lake really quickly, but were then disappointed by the whole plot once we’d actually stopped and thought about it. A late contender for excellent (and which I watched into 2018) was Feud, about Joan Crawford and Bette Davies. Excellent acting, superb costumes and settings.

What was the best book you read?

I read 48 books in 2017 which, although nowhere near my usual figure, is not bad for someone whose attention span is struggling a bit. I don’t normally read poetry but I loved Nobody Told Me by Hollie McNish, a collection on pregnancy and childbirth that my neighbour kindly bought me. The First Verse by Barry McCrea was the most thought provoking novel I read — I still can’t decide if it’s genius or pretentious. And a late contender for a favourite is Eleanor and Park, which I read right at the end of December.

What was your greatest musical discovery?

Johnny Flynn, courtesy of the theme tune to Detectorists.

What did you want and get?

A happy, healthy baby and positive delivery. And to finish my online journalism course before I gave birth. i got the final submission in on 15th May and went into labour on the 16th! Talk about cutting it fine.

What did you want and not get?

An unassisted birth, but it was still a lovely and positive experience. Time to garden and hang out in the allotment. Sleep!

What did you not want and not get?

A baby who had to start life from an uneven playing field. When the tiredness gets horrendous, I try and remember that.

What was your favourite film of this year?

I actually saw quite a few films at the cinema this year, thanks to Bristol’s plethora of baby cinema options. I really enjoyed The Big Sick, and Kedi, a documentary about cats in Istanbul. Going to see The Last Jedi with S and Mini W (in an R2D2 onesie) was pretty special too. Plus, the cinema served coffee and cake direct to our (sofa esque) seats, making it the most decadent film going ever. It’s spoilt me for normal cinema!

What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

My 35th birthday was only three weeks after giving birth so it was a bit more low key than usual. We went to Bath for the day and had lunch out. Mini W’s gift to me was time for a shower and 6.5 hours cumulative sleep. And friends bought me a lot of Prosecco and Prosecco-thrmed goodies to celebrate being able to drink again! S is going to take me to the Harry Potter studio soon as a belated birthday gift.

What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Less anxiety, more sleep.

How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2017?

Elastic waistbands until May and then easy boob access for the rest of the year.

What kept you sane?

Positive visualisation and affirmations. Yoga. Friends. My parents. And S, the best and most calming person I know.

Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

I’m still partial to a bit of Kit Harington.

What political issue stirred you the most?

As with last year, so many — the continuing Brexit saga, fake news, corrupt governments. But there were some great examples of people fighting back, such as the women’s marches, which give me hope.

Who did you miss?

I had moments — and still do — where I miss pre-mum me. She had a lot of fun. But I feel that there’s a lot of fun to come, even if it’s in a different package.

Who was the best new person you met?

I’ve met some lovely ladies this year through yoga, aquanatal, baby massage and other baby activities, and feel really pleased to have such a good group of new friends in a similar life position to me.

Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017.

The support of your loved ones really is everything.

Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

“I’m ready for this, there’s no denying
I’m ready for this, you stop me falling
I’m ready for this, I need you all in
I’m ready for this, so darling, hold my hand.” I used to play this Jess Glynne song before my son was born and think yes, bring it on, I’m ready.

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In which there’s an addition to the family

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Our son was born on 17th May, making his entrance at just after ten in the morning. The last six weeks have passed in a fast blur of joy, tiredness and wonder. And love, so much love. I’ve been overwhelmed by how he’s been welcomed by family and friends. My mom says babies bring out the best in people and she’s quite right.

It’s been a steep learning curve at times, but I can honestly say that this little lad is one of my proudest achievements. I’m sitting here typing this one handed on my phone while he snoozes in a carrier on my chest. I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else.

 

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