In which we have a two-year-old son

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Unlike the blazing hot sunshine of last year, June has been somewhat damp and soggy – we actually had better weather in February!

Mini W turned two last month (how?!), which we celebrated with a trip to Devon, back to the cottage we stayed in when he was six weeks old. We went to the beach, explored the grounds of Dartington Hall, ate amazing bread and cake from the Almond Thief bakery and toasted two years of our little boy with a bottle of Champagne.

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A few days later we also had two of his friends over with their parents for a garden afternoon, complete with a beetroot chocolate cake and marzipan digger topper.

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(Mini W is currently obsessed with diggers and construction. Bob the Builder is his hero. He also loves this YouTube video called ‘Here Comes a Digger’, which features a bear learning how to drive a digger and lots of stock footage of construction vehicles doing their thing, all set to an annoyingly catchy sound track.)

Then three weeks later I turned 37, on another damp and uninspiring day during which we were bound to the house, waiting for a delivery of cobblestones and also because we were potty training Mini W. So not the most exciting of birthdays, but S made me a cake which we had that evening with wine and The Handmaid’s Tale, and we also went out for dinner a few days prior to the day to an amazing local vegan restaurant, Eat Your Greens. We’re eating vegan more and more – I’d say we’re vegan about 50% of the time and vegetarian about 80% – and I’d wanted to try this restaurant for ages. What was good was that it was excellent food that just happened to be vegan: we had a delicious courgette and ‘feta’ tart to start, then black turtle bean burgers, followed by a sharing slice of pear, ginger and almond cake with really amazing non-dairy vanilla ice cream.

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And on the subject of potty training, if this is something on your horizon then I’d highly recommend the book Oh Crap Potty Training by Jamie Glowacki. She’s very straightforward, straight talking and practical, and her system of ‘blocks’ made sense to us. Mini W got it really quickly – I’m so proud of him – and it’s lovely not to have to wash nappies anymore, and to have to be doing stand-up changes in awkward places. It’s also very empowering for him, I think, and a real step forward in his learning. I’d also highly recommend these, as they’re comfortable for the child and the lift-out section makes cleaning it a lot easier – with one-piece potties you can struggle to fit it under the tap (as I’ve found out when using them at playgroups).

Out in the garden, work continues apace. S decided to finish the groundworks first, as he said he’d have no motivation to do them if he built the workshop first, so he’s been toiling in the rain (and occasional heat) to remove six skips’ worth of earth, level the ground and put down cobblestones for a parking space. The concrete base for the workshop is now done, and the brick course laid, so once the wood arrives at the end of this week, construction will commence! So now all we need is for the weather to improve and allow my favourite summer activities of dinner on the balcony, warm evenings on the allotment, drinks by the docks and an impromptu camping trip or two.

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In which there is life lately

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I spend so much of time writing copy these days that my little blog is sadly neglected, despite my new year’s resolution. Still, two blog posts in four months is an improvement on last year!

As seems to be the case now I’m in my (cough) late thirties, the years seem to simply swing past. A quarter of 2019 has already gone in a blur of work and raising an energetic nearly-two year old.

Mini W is a delight: exhausting but a delight. He’s starting to put together proper sentences, he understands so much, he’s into everything and boy can he move quickly. S is still at home as the primary carer, while I’m working part time, always two days a week, occasionally more. It’s a real privilege to be able to spend so much time together as a family, and I’m very grateful for our good fortune in being able to do this, and for S to have so much time with his son. In fact, by the time he does return to work, he’ll have been off for longer than I was!

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S and I have finally bitten the bullet and we’ve started our long-planned garden workshop project — to knock down the existing 70s garage and replace it with a timber-framed building that will house my office, S’ bike workshop and be a general garden room. The garage was demolished a fortnight ago and we’ve had a mini digger on site for the past week to get the groundworks done, much to the delight of Mini W and other small children in the neighbourhood.

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The good thing about this project, unlike our house renovation, is that there’s no real deadline: sooner would be better than later, of course, especially as working from home is a lot harder without a dedicated office space. But it’s not requiring us to pour all of our time and energy into it, which is good, as our house renovation was so intense — I really don’t want to go through that again, and nor can I realistically with a child now on the scene.

We’ve got a lovely spring and summer of events and breaks planned: a few days in Devon over Mini W’s birthday, returning to the cottage where we took him when he was just eight weeks old, plus a trip to Yorkshire in August for a mountain biking festival we went to last year. And the big one: a holiday to New York in September, to celebrate my dad’s 70th birthday. While a transatlantic flight and city break would not be my first choice with a two year old, it’s going to be a lot of fun. S lived in New York for a while (while we’re there is actually the 20th anniversary of when he left!), so there’s going to be lots of nice reminiscing for him. My Canadian friend and her two children are going to join us for the first few days, and we’ll be renting an apartment in Brooklyn, before we head over the bridge to Manhattan for four days with my mom, dad and brother. Any tips on travelling with a toddler will be gratefully received!

 

In which there is a look back at 2018

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Another year, another navel-gazing questionnaire…

1. What did you do in 2018 that you’d never done before?

Take a small child camping. Become a reviewer for an online natural beauty store. Go to a festival with my husband. Crochet a hat. Write an email newsletter. Interview a (semi) famous person.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Last year I said, “as I have for the last few years, I’m taking a word to try and live by. For 2018 it’s ‘present’ — enjoying the here and now, not trying to jump too far ahead and not getting too distracted to appreciate the activity I’m actually doing.” I’m not sure how much I actually succeeded at this, but I was aware of it, such as trying to not check my phone at any spare moment. I’d like to keep this word in mind for 2019, and also introduce the concept of more/less. I would like more podcasts, reading, allotment time, swimming, yoga and playing the piano and ukulele, and less dairy, plastic, over thinking and mindless phone fiddling. I’d also like to start writing on here more regularly. I’m not under any allusions that people are avidly reading my blog, but I enjoy having an online archive of writing that’s done just for me.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

Two of my closest Bristol friends had girls within six weeks of each other in February and March, my bridesmaid C had her second baby in January, a friend in London had her second baby in November and a local friend had her third baby just before Christmas. I knitted and crocheted a lot of hats this year! I’ve also got friends who are expecting twins in April, and another friend due with her second in June.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

My great aunt died on 28th December. She was a truly lovely person. I am very glad I took Mini W to visit her back in February.

5. What countries did you visit?

I didn’t go abroad this year, which is the first time for about 23 years. But we had a lot of UK-based breaks over the summer which were ace – the Isle of Wight in June, Cambridgeshire and Latitude Festival in July, Yorkshire for a mountain biking festival in early August and Devon at the end of August. We then visited my brother in Margate in November, had a few days in the Staffordshire Peak District over Christmas and spent the New Year in the Malvern Hills. I’d never visited most of these places before, so it was great to get to know my own country better.

6. What would you like to have in 2019 that you lacked in 2018?

As with last year, I definitely lacked sleep in the first half of the year (wake ups every 45 minutes to an hour!), but it then got a lot better. I’d like to have post 6.30am wake ups, that would be lovely. And now bedtimes are a bit easier and I have my evenings back, I want to get back into activities such as trapeze, yoga and swimming, and also spend more time on the allotment.

7. What dates from 2018 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

4th July, when I woke up and realised that Mini W had slept through the night for the first time!

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Getting Mini W to sleep happily in his own cot for a decent stretch of time, and doing it with methods that didn’t upset him (or me). Feeding him until the age of 18 months — that’s something I’m super proud of. And getting freelance work straightaway when I unexpectedly returned to work in May, including getting an ongoing freelance gig with a really interesting client.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Not managing to build our garden office/workshop. Let’s hope we can get our arses in gear this year!

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

I have a bit of a niggly back and neck from time to time – probably as a result of picking up a heavy child, and I also had three colds in six weeks in the autumn, and possibly a mild case of hand, foot and mouth in July, but nothing serious.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

Nakin Active Dew face cream — this stuff is amazing. A toy kitchen for Mini W. A bread maker — well, S bought this really, but I’m reaping the benefits with freshly-baked bread every morning. But what I actually tried to do this year was get more stuff out of the house than bring in. As every year passes I just want fewer things in my house, and I’m actively seeking to have less cluttered surfaces, fewer clothes, fewer toiletries etc. I used to be such a hoarder, but now I really enjoy doing regular purges.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

I always use this questionnaire to celebrate my truly wonderful husband. He can now add ‘amazing dad’ to his list of qualities, and he continues to be my favourite person in the whole world.

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

World politics doesn’t get any better, does it? The behaviour of the British government, American government, humanity in general continues to be awful. There are positive stories, though, which I need to seek out from less mainstream sources as an antidote to the unrelenting misery I read in newspapers and news sites.

14. Where did most of your money go?

General living expenses, plus all those fun mini breaks. We’ve not had a particularly expense-heavy year – people continue to be super generous with passing on clothes and toys, so our child expenditure is pretty minimal.

15. What did you get really excited about?

Mini W’s first birthday and celebrating it with family and friends. S giving up a job that was giving him horrendous stress and seeing him getting so much from looking after Mini W. Seeing my close friend B and her daughter in the summer. All the lovely mini breaks we took. Going body boarding for the first time in years in August. Getting my milk diamond ring made. Finally finishing the crochet blanket that I started in 2016! MIni W appearing in Simply Knitting and then in Love Knitting for Baby — and as the cover star! On a smaller scale, simply having our evenings back, and my being able to go out without worrying that Mini W needs me. A small thing, but much appreciated.

16. What song will always remind you of 2017?

White Denim’s It Might Get Dark, Carly Rae Jepson’s Run Away With Me and John Mayer’s Still Feel Like Your Man.

17. Compared with this time last year, are you:

–happier or sadder?

Happier, mostly because I’m not in despair over a lack of sleep.

–thinner or fatter?

Fatter, because I’m no longer feeding, but still thinner than I used to be. I know lots of mums struggle to get baby weight off, and would probably hate me for complaining about being too thin, but I really was too light when I was feeding so much and it had a negative impact on my health. I’m not yet up to pre-baby weight but I’m only a couple of kilos off, and I feel much more robust and happy.

–richer or poorer?

Poorer, as S has given up work and we only have my freelancer’s salary. But only in monetary terms – we are so much richer in time and happiness, which is amazing.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Yoga, gardening, reading and sleeping.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Over thinking and worrying about Mini W’s naps and other daytime activities affecting his sleep.

20. How did you spend Christmas?

With S’s family on a farm in the Staffordshire Peak District. It was lovely — the cousins had a lot of fun together, we ate lots of delicious food, played board games, made some inroads into the huge amount of alcohol my parents in law brought with them, had some walks in the fresh air and got to see a new part of the country.

21. Did you fall in love in 2018?

Even more so with my delightful son.

22. What was your favourite TV programme?

The second series of The Handmaid’s Tale was excellent, although I had to steel myself to watch it as the storylines really affected me – it was definitely not an uplifting programme. Channel 5 started showing Friends, so I’ve been enjoying a nostalgia trip by rewatching them – although a lot of the humour hasn’t dated well. This Is Us was my guilty pleasure.

23. What was the best book you read?

I just checked how many books I read this year and was a bit appalled at the low number of 39. But then I realised that for the first bit of 2019, I was either too sleep deprived to concentrate on a book, or when I did go to bed (my usual time to read), all I wanted to do was maximise my shut eye time. Also, my free time is somewhat limited these days too! So with that justification duly noted, I absolutely loved The City and The City by China Mieville, as the concept was so original and clever. It tailed off a bit towards the end but I still really enjoyed it. I also liked I Am the Messenger by Marcus Zusak (bonkers but great), The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield, Truly Madly Guilty by Lianne Moriarty (I couldn’t put it down), Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine (read in about two days straight), and in non fiction, Mrs Pankhurst’s Purple Feather, which was all about the campaigning to end feathers on millinery and the birth of the RSPB.

24. What was your greatest musical discovery?

White Denim — I really enjoyed their latest album.

25. What did you want and get?

More sleep. In material things, all I wanted for Christmas was a good book, a scented candle and some handcream — and I actually got all of these!

26. What did you want and not get?

A functioning garden office/workshop. Now I’m back at work I could really do with an office for when I need to do things at home — my old office is now Mini W’s bedroom!

27. What did you not want and not get?

Periods of freelance unemployment. Hurrah!

28. What was your favourite film of this year?

Three Billboards Outside of Ebbing, Missouri. It was definitely not what I was expecting – I thought it was a ‘fight for justice’ type film – but I really enjoyed its black humour.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 36, and it was on the final day of our trip to the Isle of Wight, so we were actually staying with my mom and dad, which was nice. My mom made me a chocolate Guinness cake, which was delicious, and we had a tasty brunch before we drove home.

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Solid eight hours of sleep every night. Here’s hoping for 2019!

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2018?

I was still feeding frequently for the first half of the year, so anything with easy boob access was key. But after decreasing in June and then finally weaning in November, I got super excited to bring out my old clothes and old bras. It was like a whole new wardrobe!

32. What kept you sane?

S, as always. He really is my rock. And friends. When I had a bit of a rubbish time with sleep deprivation at the start of the year, I had so much support from my ladies, from sending me surprise gifts in the post to messages of advice and love. I am truly lucky.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

I must be getting old as I can’t really think of one!

34. What political issue stirred you the most?

Unfortunately, as with the last few years, there have been many — and they continue to be the same as in previous year. The ongoing ridiculousness of Brexit, fake news, Trump, Brexit again… Actually, I think Brexit is the thing that’s made me the angriest, as other issues such as fake news feed into this (ie the lies the Leave campaign spouted that voters believed in). I honestly don’t know how we’re going to get out of this mess with any dignity.

35. Who did you miss?

I didn’t get to see my Bristol friends as much as normal this year, due to new babies/other life events, so I’m hoping we get more nights out/lunches/crafternoons in 2019.

36. Who was the best new person you met?

I started a new ongoing freelance role and have met some really nice people through that.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2018.

Something is only a problem if it’s a problem for you.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

Call it magic, call it true/ I call it magic when I’m with you/ And I just got broken, broken into two/ Still I call it magic, when I’m next to you.” I used to sing this to Mini W at bedtime, and it always reminds me that even when things were hard, he was — and is — absolutely magic.

 

In which there is a trip to a festival

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Even though we’ve been together for nearly 15 years, S and I have never been to a festival together — festival in the sense of being in a tent in a field for three days. This year, as he isn’t working over the summer*, we decided it would be the perfect time to try out Latitude Festival, one we’ve always heard good things about, but never gone to as it’s in Suffolk and thus the absolute other end of the country.

We took Mini W on a one night camping trip a few weeks before, to make sure he would be happy sleeping in the tent, and to check out what equipment we would need. That overnighter went super well, and helped us realise what we needed to bring — namely, much more food than we thought and store things in bags that couldn’t be investigated by tiny fingers!

Latitude turned out to be brilliant fun. It’s sold as being very family-friendly, and it seemed that there were more people there with children than not. Although it was right in the middle of a heatwave, the site was never unpleasantly crowded, and being by the woods and a lake meant shade could always be found. There were a couple of children’s areas — the Enchanted Garden on the edge of the family campsite, then a children’s field in the main festival area, full of games and activities. Mini W was too little for a lot of them, but he really enjoyed the book tent, the sand pit and the soft play tent set up by a local youth centre — and we really appreciated the baby bathtime that they hosted between 5-6pm, to wash off the grime from the day! (There was so much dust, because everything was so dry, and which got everywhere. The laces on my shoes will never be the same again.)

There are also some really fun touches: the woods on the edge of the site have amazing light installations at night, and there’s a lake that you can swim in and which at night has some fab illuminations. Oh, and they (ethically) dye the resident sheep pink!

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Having a small child meant that one of us had to stay with him at night, so we tag teamed it and had one night out each. If Mini W was a bit older then we would have kept him out a bit later, but he’s at that age where he gets really ratty around bedtime and just needs his dinner around 5pm and to go to sleep between 7 and 8pm. So S retired early to the tent on the Friday while I enjoyed Belle and Sebastian in the sunshine, had a henna tattoo and then saw James (for the fifth time I think? But always great). Saturday night saw me tucked up in my sleeping bag by 9.30pm, reading Private Eye, woolly hat firmly on, while everyone else rocked out to the Killers!

We were there more for the comedy than the music, and managed to see a lot of great acts — Marcus Brigstocke, Angela Barnes, Harry Hill, Alan Davies, Shappi Khorsandi to name a few. Because there were so many children around, we could have Mini W in the audience with us and make sure he was happy with toys, books or general people-watching. Mini W is very active, and makes it clear when he needs to romp, so we made a pact that if he wasn’t happy, we would leave — which is why we had to miss one of my all-time favourites, David O’Doherty, but that’s fair enough, as it’s not on to make a small child sit in one place for ages just so you can be amused. In fact, I think that was the biggest tip I’d pass onto anyone wanting to do a festival with a similar-aged child — don’t plan to see anything specific. If you do get to see an act, brilliant, it’s a bonus, but your child has to come first, obviously, and if you don’t expect anything then you won’t be disappointed.

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I was initially pretty nervous about taking a 13 month old to a festival but it actually turned out really well. I read a few blogs and forums before I left with some tips, which was really helpful, so here is my two penn’orth for if you’re taking a small child to Latitude/festivals in general…

  • You will be amazed what they can sleep through — Mini W took a while to drift off, but when asleep he went straight through the Killers at crazy decibel levels, and all the subsequent dance music. I, on the other hand, did not, so definitely bring ear plugs if you want to block out the whomp-whomp-whomp.
  • We did buy ear defenders for Mini W but a) we didn’t take him to any loud music and b) he refused to wear them anyway! But I did see a lot of children wearing them, so they’re a worthwhile thing to have in your pack.
  • The car park at Latitude is a LONG walk from the family campsite. Most people had little trucks, which you could also rent there. We did not, but we should have done so we only had to make one or two trips, rather than four in the baking hot sunshine.
  • The food at Latitude is varied and plentiful — there’s almost too much choice! — and if you have a child who’s happy eating most things then you should be fine. But we also took lots of our own for Mini W, such as beans, and stuff that just needed hot water/warm through, such as packet flavoured couscous and Bean Feast, adding tinned veg to them for some vitamins and nourishment. Dried fruit and Naked bars were great as pudding and on-the-go snacks. There was a big Co-op shop on site though, which is really handy — we didn’t use it, but it was good to know it was there.
  • If, like us, you need a coffee to get you going in the morning and like to brew one in the tent rather than queue for ages at the family campsite coffee stand, Oatly Barista milk is ideal to have, as it doesn’t need refrigerating before it’s opened, and even then it keeps a fresh for longer than cow’s milk.
  • Bring a water carrier — we now have a collapsible one — as there was loads of fresh water available all over the campsite, and having a 5 litre container means less walking to and fro with smaller bottles.
  • The campsites also had washing up stations, with metal sinks and cold water taps, so cleaning up was a breeze. Toilets were either chemical ones with hand gel or proper flushing ones in trailers with running water for handwashing. They were cleaned really frequently so I never really saw anything manky. I think there were also some long drops but I never saw these.
  • The queue for the showers was insanely long by mid-morning — 3pm in the afternoon was the best time to attempt one! But as mentioned above, one of the tents in the children’s area offered baby bathtime, with a bath, hot water and bubbles, so all you have to bring is a towel and a grubby child!
  • We use cloth nappies for Mini W, but had to admit defeat for the festival and went for eco-disposables. (We couldn’t hygienically store dirty nappies for four days in a hot tent), but luckily there was a special waste bin for sanitary products. Recycling is very big at Latitude: there are bins for all kinds of waste, and you’re really encouraged to put as little as possible in general waste.
  • Even in temperatures over 25 in the day, a tent gets really cold at night, so you definitely need warm sleepwear for your child. We used lots of layers for Mini W — t shirt, long sleeved PJs, 2.5tog sleeping bag, and then added a blanket a bit later on. We also had a cotton beanie for him, but he kept pulling it off!
  • We’re lucky to have a big tent and so just took our travel cot and put it in the sleeping compartment with us. Being raised off the ground and having sides meant Mini W stayed warmer, too, as well as being secure from rolling on uneven ground!

We’ve got another festival next week, a much smaller mountainbiking one in Yorkshire, so fingers crossed it goes as well as this one did!

* As S wasn’t happy in his job, we’ve done a swap — I’ve gone back to work for a few months, and he’s the primary carer for Mini W. He certainly picked an amazing summer to not be stuck in an office all day! Whereas I am sitting in an un-air conditioned building. Working on a Christmas magazine. In 30 degree temperatures.

In which there are a lot of words about 2017

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The annual navel-gazing questionnaire is back! And it’s only taken me about four weeks to complete — that’s being a parent for you.

What did you do in 2017 that you’d never done before?

Well, the obvious one is have a baby, and everything associated with that. Just as this questionnaire was dominated by house renovation in 2014, expect this one to be pretty baby-heavy. Mini W came with lots of firsts, from hypnobirthing classes and keeping a child alive with just my boobs, to successfully working out how to strap a wriggly infant in a car seat and have a baby fall asleep in my arms.

Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Last year I said “I want to continue on the same path of appreciating everything I have, continuing to grow my freelance work and being the best wife, friend, daughter and sister I can be,.with the added addition of being the best parent I can be, and a bit less freelance work.”

The parenting thing is hard at times, particularly on a huge sleep deficit, and there’s always room for improvement, but Mini W is still alive and thriving so it’s going OK overall.

Freelancing continued to go well until my maternity leave started in May, and I did get better at saying no when my workload was busy.

This year, as I have for the last few, I’m taking a word to try and live by. For 2018 it’s ‘present’ — enjoying the here and now, not trying to jump too far ahead and not getting too distracted to appreciate the activity I’m actually doing.

Did anyone close to you give birth?

We had friends bring new babas into the world in January and February, and my German friend J sneaked her little boy in in 24th December. A couple of work friends had babies, which was lovely and gave me some other people to hang out with on mat leave. Lots more are coming this year too — I’m currently waiting to hear about my friend’s imminent arrival, plus two of my closest friends in Bristol are having spring babies this year to grow our gang, which is ace.

Did anyone close to you die?

Thankfully no. My mother in law had some bad news health wise in May but is doing better.

What countries did you visit?

A small year for travelling this year — just Italy in late September for a week. It featured gelato, pasta, bomboloni, sunshine and beautiful architecture and landscapes, and was very much appreciated.

What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017?

Sleep. Oh, glorious sleep, how I miss thee.

What dates from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

17th May, the day my son was born.

What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Keeping a small human alive with just my body. And managing to do it on levels of sleep that would be ranked as torture.

What was your biggest failure?

An inability to get my baby to nap in his cot. (I don’t actually see that as too much of a bad thing though as I enjoy snoozy on-lap naps!)

Did you suffer illness or injury?

Giving birth was a wonderful experience but I did have a few issues as a consequence that took a while to heal. I’ve also had a number of colds this winter but I think that’s inevitable when around small germy children.

What was the best thing you bought?

The services of my gardener friend to help keep on top of our (huge) garden when I couldn’t. An Ergo baby sling — guaranteed naps when baby is in it with two hands free to do stuff round the house or get around easily.

Whose behaviour merited celebration?

I was so touched by the reaction of friends and family to the arrival of Mini W. I know a truly awesome group of people on this earth. And as always, S contines to be my best friend, cheerleader and all round wonderful human. He is now a brilliant father, which I always knew he would be.

Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

As with last year, events on the national and global stage (Brexit, Trump administration, Syria, global warming and over consumption, the list goes on) depressed and appalled me. I do worry about the planet my son’s generation will inherit. But as Gandhi said, we need to be the change we want to see, so I will continue to engage and fight for the world I want.

Where did most of your money go?

It must be lunches, coffee and cake out! We were so lucky to be given or lent absolutely loads of baby stuff so our outlay there was surprisingly minimal.

What did you get really excited about?

Meeting my baby! Eating gelato in its birthplace of Florence. Seeing my garden take shape. My friend’s hen do and wedding.

What song will always remind you of 2017?

Barcelona by George Ezra. I used to play it to Mini W in utero as it has a good bass beat. And we got engaged in Barcelona so it’ll always be a special city.

Compared with this time last year, are you:

–happier or sadder?
Happier. I spent the first few months of 2017 stressing about Mini W’s potential medical issues. To have him here and well and healthy is so, so brilliant.

–thinner or fatter?

Thinner. Not only have I shed the 10kg of baby weight I put on, but breastfeeding and a motion-loving son means I’m an additional 7kg lighter. S bought me a lot of chocolate for Christmas!

–richer or poorer?

Poorer, and set to be more so as mat leave payments stop this month!

What do you wish you’d done more of?

Sleep!

What do you wish you’d done less of?

Not worrying about the baby’s health. But it was inevitable really. And then reading baby books and stressing about what I “should” be doing. I’ve stopped that now — my mantra is whatever gets you through.

How did you spend Christmas?

We had Mini W’s first Christmas at home with just us and the puss. Very relaxing.

Did you fall in love in 2017?

Yes, and a love I’ve never experienced before and fail to put into words. .

What was your favourite TV programme?

Ooh, we watched some good stuff this year. The Handmaid’s Tale was probably the best — although pretty harrowing with a newborn. We also loved Detectorists, and watched all three series over jusr a week or two. So gentle, and British, and sun dappled. Plus a cracking theme tune. We watched both series of Top of the Lake really quickly, but were then disappointed by the whole plot once we’d actually stopped and thought about it. A late contender for excellent (and which I watched into 2018) was Feud, about Joan Crawford and Bette Davies. Excellent acting, superb costumes and settings.

What was the best book you read?

I read 48 books in 2017 which, although nowhere near my usual figure, is not bad for someone whose attention span is struggling a bit. I don’t normally read poetry but I loved Nobody Told Me by Hollie McNish, a collection on pregnancy and childbirth that my neighbour kindly bought me. The First Verse by Barry McCrea was the most thought provoking novel I read — I still can’t decide if it’s genius or pretentious. And a late contender for a favourite is Eleanor and Park, which I read right at the end of December.

What was your greatest musical discovery?

Johnny Flynn, courtesy of the theme tune to Detectorists.

What did you want and get?

A happy, healthy baby and positive delivery. And to finish my online journalism course before I gave birth. i got the final submission in on 15th May and went into labour on the 16th! Talk about cutting it fine.

What did you want and not get?

An unassisted birth, but it was still a lovely and positive experience. Time to garden and hang out in the allotment. Sleep!

What did you not want and not get?

A baby who had to start life from an uneven playing field. When the tiredness gets horrendous, I try and remember that.

What was your favourite film of this year?

I actually saw quite a few films at the cinema this year, thanks to Bristol’s plethora of baby cinema options. I really enjoyed The Big Sick, and Kedi, a documentary about cats in Istanbul. Going to see The Last Jedi with S and Mini W (in an R2D2 onesie) was pretty special too. Plus, the cinema served coffee and cake direct to our (sofa esque) seats, making it the most decadent film going ever. It’s spoilt me for normal cinema!

What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

My 35th birthday was only three weeks after giving birth so it was a bit more low key than usual. We went to Bath for the day and had lunch out. Mini W’s gift to me was time for a shower and 6.5 hours cumulative sleep. And friends bought me a lot of Prosecco and Prosecco-thrmed goodies to celebrate being able to drink again! S is going to take me to the Harry Potter studio soon as a belated birthday gift.

What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Less anxiety, more sleep.

How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2017?

Elastic waistbands until May and then easy boob access for the rest of the year.

What kept you sane?

Positive visualisation and affirmations. Yoga. Friends. My parents. And S, the best and most calming person I know.

Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

I’m still partial to a bit of Kit Harington.

What political issue stirred you the most?

As with last year, so many — the continuing Brexit saga, fake news, corrupt governments. But there were some great examples of people fighting back, such as the women’s marches, which give me hope.

Who did you miss?

I had moments — and still do — where I miss pre-mum me. She had a lot of fun. But I feel that there’s a lot of fun to come, even if it’s in a different package.

Who was the best new person you met?

I’ve met some lovely ladies this year through yoga, aquanatal, baby massage and other baby activities, and feel really pleased to have such a good group of new friends in a similar life position to me.

Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017.

The support of your loved ones really is everything.

Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

“I’m ready for this, there’s no denying
I’m ready for this, you stop me falling
I’m ready for this, I need you all in
I’m ready for this, so darling, hold my hand.” I used to play this Jess Glynne song before my son was born and think yes, bring it on, I’m ready.